It’s mind-blowing that God has commanded husbands to express a type of love to their wives which is similar to the one Christ has expressed toward the church. Bear in mind, this love isn’t an ordinary one but one that is profound, unconditional, sacrificial, and selfless.
So the only way that type of love can be expressed is when husbands have chosen to allow Christ to work within their hearts through the person of the Holy Spirit in order to empower them to accept and love their wives in a fashion that honors and glorifies God.
In this case, how a husbands treats his wife in the sight of God determines his character in Christ. The responsibility of the wife is to respond to her husband through submission and respect. See Christian marriage.